{"id":654,"date":"2010-10-09T22:25:42","date_gmt":"2010-10-10T02:25:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/onemonthofwisdom.com\/wisdomblog\/?p=654"},"modified":"2011-08-19T21:53:27","modified_gmt":"2011-08-20T01:53:27","slug":"andy-stanley","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onemonthofwisdom.com\/wisdomblog\/2010\/10\/andy-stanley\/","title":{"rendered":"Andy Stanley’s Upside of Tension vs. Problem Solving Conflict Resolution"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"Andy<\/a><\/h3>\n

Andy Stanley<\/a>, from North Point Community Church in Alpharetta<\/a>, GA, is next up in my series on the 2010 Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit.\u00a0\u00a0 The subject matter was foreign to me, as I have always tended toward resolving tensions and keeping my personal space a \u201czero drama zone.\u201d\u00a0 I was pretty proud of my problem solving conflict resolution skills.\u00a0 Apparently, I had something important to learn.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Andy began by stating that in every organization there are problems that shouldn\u2019t be solved and tensions that shouldn\u2019t be resolved.\u00a0 My curiosity was piqued, but I was not expecting to be convinced of this.\u00a0 <\/span>Andy\u2019s point was that if you resolve these tensions, you will only be creating new and different tensions, thus creating a barrier to progress.\u00a0 In simpler terms, moving from one tension to the next keeps you focused on the tensions rather than the future.\u00a0 Progress depends on successfully managing these tensions.<\/h3>\n

Obviously there are some problems that need to be solved.\u00a0 The tricky part is figuring out what problems or tensions should be managed, and what problems or tensions need resolving.\u00a0 Andy had some key insights for discerning that as well, and these are the questions he suggested we explore when we need to determine which category a problem or tension falls into.<\/h3>\n

Is this a problem or tension that keeps resurfacing?<\/span> Issues that exist in the background, and keep coming up again and again, may be based on personal preferences or styles.\u00a0 People will always have differing opinions on some subjects, and finding creative ways to accommodate different styles can generate much progress toward developing programs that will be attractive to the majority of your target audience.\u00a0 These are tensions you want to keep and manage, not resolve.<\/h3>\n

Are there mature advocates for both sides?<\/span> When there are, it follows naturally that you are dealing with two valid schools of thought.\u00a0 There is not always a right way and a wrong way.\u00a0 Sometimes there are just two or more different strategies to achieve the same goal.<\/h3>\n

Are the two (or more) sides really interdependent?<\/span> The concerns of those who market a product, service, or idea, are far different from those of the people who produce or deliver that product, service, or idea.\u00a0 In this case, the tension is simply the result of each party\u2019s inability to connect with the role the others play.\u00a0 I have certainly experienced this, in organizations where sales, tech support, customer service, and administration seem to always be at odds with one another, blaming the other departments for all of the tension that is felt in their own department.<\/h3>\n

Problem solving conflict resolution is not always the best course of action.\u00a0 According to Andy, strong, and ultimately successful leaders, will leverage tensions to the benefit of the organization while giving value to all sides.\u00a0 They will not make decisions based on their own personal bias, and will not allow strong personalities to win the day.\u00a0 It is a constant leveraging of one and then the other, finding a rhythm more than seeking a balance.\"Andy<\/a><\/h3>\n

Of all the summit speakers, Andy Stanley was definitely the most difficult to wrap my mind around.\u00a0 I have revisited my notes on many occasions, and continue to find a useful nugget of wisdom with each return.\u00a0 I have found once again, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.\u00a0 Through the teachings of Andy Stanley, I know I am becoming a much wiser leader.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Are you ready to dig deeper to hone your leadership skills?\u00a0 You should be.\u00a0 Great leadership is in great demand!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Blessings & Adventure,<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Lynn “lynnibug” Rios<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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