I try to keep the content on Wisdom Blog upbeat, but sometimes we need to take a long hard look at the world around us and stand up for what is right and just.

This video stands as a shining example of leadership in a world gone insane over so called political correctness and tolerance.

  If we hide our heads in the sand thinking “it could never happen in America”, we are deluding ourselves and our complacency will cause this land of opportunity to become a nation enslaved.

Wake up and listen!

Although enabling behavior is most often associated with the loved ones of addicts and alcoholics, and victims of domestic violence, it can become an issue with any kind of dysfunctional personality.

Why am I so certain of this?  Because enabling behavior is something that I struggle with.

The danger of enabling behavior is something that the enabler may have to learn over and over again, because it is in our nature to want to help.  Enabling, in and of itself, is actually a positive thing.  Dictionary.com lists the following definitions:  1. to make able;  give power, means, competence, or ability to; authorize 2. to make possible or easy 3. to make ready; equip (often used in combination)

Enabling behavior is fueled by our feelings of love and friendship.  It’s only natural to want to help someone we care about, but when it comes to certain life and growth issues or repetitive, negative dysfunctional behaviors, our help simply allows the problem to persist.  In other words we are doing more harm than good by allowing that person to avoid making the changes they need to make. At the same time, it is difficult to stop our enabling behavior lest we seem cold, calloused and uncaring.

So how can one work through these gray areas of love to stop the enabling behavior? (more…)

All I can say is WOW!  It has been a crazy busy week, with blessing upon blessing in my business life!  All week I have been trying to get a few minutes to share something I learned at a training event last weekend, so here I am, burning the midnight oil because it just can’t wait any longer.

Rev. Jeff Stiggins gave this telling presentation, that is so simple, yet so profound. I would also add that although this is directed at church leadership, the principals are valid for excelling as a leader in any profession or walk of life.

It begins, Once upon a time, church leadership wasn’t so challenging.  There weren’t a lot of options, and the options you did have were well marked.  Today there are choices, lots of choices, and the signs are sometimes confusing.  Today leadership isn’t so simple, to the point where things feel upside down.  So here is a formula to simplify leadership in 3 steps.

1. Be who you are

2. See what you have

3.  Do what matters to God.

Now let’s look at these a little closer…

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